#34

1. One part of the video that stood out to me were the part where Cristillina talked about her past lifestyle and how she just stopped it and started practicing chastity and abstinence until marriage. Another part was when Jason talked about imagining your future wife getting pressured into have sex because that is very inspirational for me. The last thing that stood out was the part when Jason talked about the girl from Texas being sexually abused and being put in a latrine, and when the kids were stuck in the school and the dad came to get him, because these parts were sad and I’ll never forget them.

2. The most challenging part is devoting yourself to one girl and staying abstinent until marriage. This is hard because there are a lot of girls that I could just have some type of sexual relationship with, but not have any true love for. It makes me think about my life now, because there is a girl that I really like but there are also a lot of girls that I could hang out with at times and be with them, but I always have the girl that I truly like in the back of my head, so I don’t do anything with those girls that don’t mean anything to me. It’s hard being a guy and not thinking about all girls in a sexual way and not lusting for them.

3. The most inspiring part was when Jason was talking about knowing how your future wife might be with some guy pressuring her into having sex at that very moment that you are thinking about getting married and being with her for the first time. Thinking about that happening to me would be extremely inspirational to be abstinent until marriage, and hoping that my future wife wouldn’t let any guy pressure her into sex so that we can save ourselves together for marriage.

#33

1) "Which part of the handout stands out to you the most and why?"2) "How could you use your 'Must Have' and 'Can't Stand' to help you know if you are infatuated or 'in love'?"

1. The part that stands out the most is in the middle where it says infatuation is being together forever and not risking losing them, and love is being patient, not panicking, and planning your future with confidence. This stands out the most because that is one of the key concepts of love, being patient and not panicking. Love takes time and has to develop itself. Infatuation just happens in a second because it is so sufericial and fake. Love is time-consuming and needs to grow over years.

2. Your must have and can't stand list can help you know if you are infatuated or in love because it will make you realize if your list is really what you want in a girl/guy, or if you are just looking for something to do. Your list shows what you truly want in a girl, and if you are infatuated, your list won't truly matter to you. If you follow your list and base your love life off of that, then you are probably in love and not infatuated.

#32

Must-Haves
1. Chemistry
2. Attraction
3. Affectionate
4. Passionate
5. Emotionally Healthy
6. Loyal
7. Educated
8. Relaxed
9. Ambitious
10. Family Life

Can't Stands
1. Sloppy
2. Poor Hygiene
3. Depressed
4. Drugs
5. Flirts
6. Self-Centered
7. Cheating
8. Judgmental
9. Denying
10. Childish

#31

1.) Dating today is going out to dinner and a movie, and really getting to know the other person. You are exclusively dating someone when one asks the other person to be their girl/boyfriend. Dating is either just called "dating" or "going out."

2.) A disadvantage to the Olden Days is that the woman would control who could call her, and the advantage is that it is a more organized way to find a partner. A disadvantage to the Classical Era is that marriage is not the main goal, and an advantage is that they were unsupervised.

3.)
1. Sexual attraction
2. Fun
3. Getting out of ourselves
4. Companionship
5. Joy of give-and-take
6. Thing to do
7. Ego boost
8. Marriage partner

I ranked them this way because to me, dating is about finding a person that you are sexual attracted to, but can also have fun with. Also, dating should be about finding out about other people and having someone there for you. Dating is also something to do so that you don't have to sit at home all the time by yourself. Dating isn't an ego boost or a way to find a marriage partner because those aren't important to me at this time in my life.

4.) The easiest guideline to follow is to have an equal relationship because it isn't hard to ask your partner what they would like to do or where they would like to go. The hardest guideline to follow is to see beyond gender stereotypes because I am a very sarcastic and comical person, and it is hard not to make my partner realize that I am just joking around.

#30

1. Good listening skills are important because it is critical to success and is essential to caring and loving.

2. You know you are doing a good job of listening when the other person keeps talking and tells you about what is important for him or her. You are listening well if you have good body and spoken language.

3. The nine guidelines are quiet your own speech and be attentive, communicate an open attitude with your body language, stay in eye contact, avoid assuming anything about what the other person will say, give signals that you are listening, help by summarizing occasionally, ask clarifying questions, check your perceptions of the speaker's body language, and let the person know if you cannot listen at the time.

4. The easiest guideline for me to follow is to act clarifying questions because I'm not shy. If I don't understand what they are saying, I will ask them. I know that they won't feel discouraged if I have to ask them what they were talking about.

5. The hardest for me to follow is to stay in eye contact because at times it feels weird to just keep looking at someone. It's hard to keep eye contact with someone, especially when they are talking to you and they aren't keeping your eye contact.

#29

1. Body language is the way we communicate with others non-verbally. This can be scene through bodily gestures, facial expressions, posture, tone and pitch of voice, rate of speech, clothing, and the use of physical space. Body language is more readily believed because body language is natural and responsive. We usually don't plan what we are going to do with our bodies like we do when we plan on lying, so it is thought the body is easier to be believed than verbal communication. Nonverbal behavior is less conscious, less subject to control. It is the "real" message.

2. Humans feel the need to touch and be affectionate, but as we grow older we might feel scared to touch our family members and feel that affection. Touching is needed when affection is desired and wanted, and the other person is aware of it. We need touching when we want to care for ourselves and other people. Touching is loving and caring. The guideline is touch to give, not to get. This means touch to let other people know you are there for them, not so that they give something to you in return for being there for them.

3. After observing my classmate on Tuesday, I could tell when he was interested and bored. When he was interested, he sat up and was paying attention to the teacher, while asking questions when he didn't understand. When he was bored, he was slouching with his hand on his head. On Wednesday when he was interested, he focused on the teacher or the speaker and did a lot of nodding. When he wasn't listening, he put his headphones in and was paying attention to his computer. Thursday was much of the same stuff. He did a lot of the same motions, except when he gave a presentation he was very fidgety and was looking all around the room, which showed he was nervous.

#28

1. Carl Jung says to become whole, a person must bring the idea that all males have a feminine dimension, and all females have a male dimension, to awareness and allow it to be integrated into his or her personality.

2. Jesus transcended sexual stereotypes by crying when life demanded sorrow, and being forceful when life demanded courage. He expressed his sexuality by directing its energy and power into his ministry. He was free of these sexual stereotypes because he didn't care if people talked about him when he wept because he was in pain. He knew that it was ok to cry and let out his anger.

3. In some places, that is true. In others, it isn't. Many dads, especially those who were in the Army, try to make their sons the manliest a man could be. They make them play rough sports and always yell at them so that they don't grow up to be a wimp. In other households, the parents take care of their son and just try to make them the best human he could be, not necessarily the manliest.

4. She says that men say that women can't do anything for themselves and always need help doing things. She also says that they say that women don't have the same rights as men, or any rights, and that Christianity came from a man and a woman.

5. The second stanza describes me the most. It does because it shows a shared life of parenthood, and I believe that a family should all be equal and have an equal say. A wife and husband should have the liberty to say what they want, but still listen to what their spouse says and wants to do. Freedom is important, but equality is more important.

#27

As a girl, I wake up at 6:30, so that I could shower and put on 4 pounds of make-up so that all the guys will look at me. I will only eat a little bit of breakfast so that I don't gain any weight, and then I will drive to school, and meet all nine of my best friends at my locker. After this, we will walk around the hallways and talk extremely loud while walking even slower. I will only talk to my friends and the boys I am trying to impress, while ignoring everyone else. At lunch, my best friends and I will eat an apple and one carrot because we cannot eat in front of guys. After school our click will go get our nails done to impress all the boys tomorrow at school.

After getting our nails done, I will go home and listen to Brittney Spears and Avril Lavigne for hours on end, and then only do the homework for the hot teachers. I will probably end up fighting with my little brother, Joey, because guys are stupid and I know I'm always right (I AM a girl). I will then put on a cucumber mask and get enough beauty sleep, only to be awoken again, extremely angry that I forgot to paint my toenails last night.

#26

1) When you completed your Johari window on-line, did you include the same 5-6 qualities that you had written on your paper?
--Yes, I did include the same qualities. I did thise because I was confident that they all explained me perfectly, and I based what I wrote off of the Johari Window site. I used those words to reflect on the type of person that I am.

2) Would you feel comfortable if I projected your Johari window on the screen?
--Yes, I would feel comfortable because I know that everyone has an idea of who I am and what I represent and knows that the qualities that I picked for myself and others picked for me are correct. I know that they will understand why I chose what I chose, and why my peers chose what they chose to describe me.

3) We have seen four communication encounters so far: "You" messages, "I" messages, "Find Someone Who...", and the interactive Johari window. Compare and contrast these four communication encounters:a) Which encounter is the easiest to take part in? Why?b) Which encounter is the most difficult to take part in? Why?c) Which encounter takes the most amount of risk? Why?d) Include additional similarities or differences between the four encounters.
--a.) The easiest one to take part in is the "Find Someone Who..." because it is the most fun. It's very easy to go around and ask you classmates easy questions that can't upset or anger anyone. It has the least risk of annoying anyone or making them feel uncomfortable, so it's the easiest.
b.) The most difficult would be the "I" messages because you have to admit that you were wrong about something. Also, it takes a lot of courage and preparation to apologize to someone, and many people can't do it because it is so nerve-wrecking.
c.) The communication that takes the most amount of risk would be the "You" messages because you are calling out the other person with their faults. You are taking their bad habits or traits and telling them that they haven't impacted your life in a positive way. It is risky because "You" messages could possibly end a relationship that you never truly wanted to end.
d.) The similarities of the four encounters are that they all involve communicating with other people, they all involve having enough courage to encounter someone else, and they all involve ways of expressing yourself emotionally or mentally. Some of the differences include how you communicate with someone (over the computer or in person), the type of courage that it takes to talk to the other person or people (courage to tell someone off or thank/apologize), and how you express yourself (in a physical, nice, calm, angry, etc. way).

#25

"You"
Dave and Sally were best friends. They grew up together and were next-door neighbors. Dave told Sally that he would take her out to eat on Friday night and 8:00 for her birthday. He showed up to her house at 7:55, only to find nobody home and her cell phone off. Dave waited until 9:00 for her to call or come home, but she never showed. On Monday morning at school, Dave saw Sally in the hall and just stared at her.

Sally said, "Hey, whats up? How was your weekend?" Dave didn't answer her, just gave her an angry look. "Is something wrong?" she asked. Dave replied, "Yeah, I hate you... that's what's wrong. How could you stand me up like that after I tried being nice and taking you out to eat for you birthday. You are a terrible person." Sally said, "Oh my Gosh! I'm so sorry! My grandma was in the hospital all weekend and I totally forgot about our plans. I'm so sorry." Dave then said, "Yeah, well you should have called and told me. Only a real jerk wouldn't call."




"I"
Sally says, "Hey, whats up? How was your weekend? Dave answers, "It was ok, other than not being able to hang out with you for your birthday. Did something happen?" Sally replied, "Yes and I am sorry I didn't call. My grandma was in the hospital and I stayed with her all weekend. I'm sorry I never called. I understand why you are mad." Dave said, "Don't worry about it. These things happen. I'm sorry about your grandma, but next time will you please call and tell me where you are so that I know nothing bad happened to you?" "Deal," she said.

#24

One of my friendships ended in 5th grade when my best friend moved away. It was hard to talk or see him because we had school and were very involved in sports and activities, plus we didn't have cell phones to text or call each other whenever we wanted. We didn't formally end the relationship because we figured we would still see each other all the time, even though we don't. We are still friends but aren't as close as we used to. I wish we could still see each other a lot, but it's extremely hard nowadays. I never want to actually end it, even though we don't hang out. I hope that we can always be friends even if we don't see each other or talk as much as we would like.

#23

1. Work- My co-worker, Fernando: do same task at work- collaborators; We are close because we have been working together for 5 years and know how each other feel even when we don't say it.
2. Emotional- My brother, friends Chris and Anthony: deep connection- closest people besides parents; These people mean the world to me. They are always there for me and I can tell anything to them.
3. Intellectual- Friend Danek: share same ideas, close friends; Danek is one of my closest friends from school, and will be a life-long friend.
4. Crisis- Friend Mike- close friends; I have grown up with Mike and been through more with him than any other person, besides my family.
5. Common-cause- Friends Enrique and Saul: close friends; These people always make me laugh and make any situation fun.
6. Spiritual- Mother and Father: close friends; I love my parents more than anything in the world. They provide me with everything I need plus more.
7. Aesthetic- My brother: close friend- closest person to me; My brother is my closest friend and greatest person I know.
8. Recreational- Enrique, Edwin, Malcolm, Saul, my brother: close friends/buddies; These are the funniest people I know and can always make me laugh, even when I'm angry.
9. Creative- Friends Anthony and Chris, my brother: close friends; These people mean the world to me. They are always there for me and I can tell anything to them.

#22

1. Yes, Jesus did have friends. Two examples were Martha and Mary- two sisters, and their brother, Lazarus, who some call Jesus's greatest friends.

2. Friendship is characterized by someone that you can be real with and someone that you have and has mutual caring for. It is different from nurturing and parental love because parental and nurturing love is on a higher level; it is a closer relationship that is distilled inside of one since they are brought into this world.

3. An I-Thou relationship is when one treats another as a subject with an inner life. This friendship is what intimacy is all about. It gives us a glimpse of how we experience with others the ultimate way of relating to God, the eternal "Thou." It shows us what grace-filled moments are all about. It means that our friendships can be sacred experiences, opportunities for grace.

#21

5. My close friends have brought out the best in me when they help me to become the best person that I can. They do this by being truthful to me, practicing with me, helping me become better at sports and teaching me things that I don't already know.

6. One time when a friend saved me from myself by being loyal and honest was when one of my friends told me that my hair made me look a lot younger than I already look, so I stopped doing my hair like that. It made me realize that I looked kind of stupid and like a 9 year-old.

7. My relationship with my friend Anthony is mutual and equal, and more than any friend that I have. We always pay for each other when the other forgets money or needs to borrow money, and we always switch who drives for the night or the weekend. Everything we do is fair and equal and that's the way it will always be.

8. Three things that make me hard to accept are that I am always correcting people when they say or spell stuff wrong, I am always busy so it would be hard to be available at all time, and I have a tendency to act like I'm better than my friends. I find that my friends make fun of other people too much, talk behind people's backs, and never respect people that deserve their respect, but I still accept them because they are my friends.

9. I have been generous to them when I have picked them up when they needed rides, loaned them money when they were in need, helped them out with their homework when they didn't understand it, and fixed their computers when they wouldn't work. They have been generous to me by helping me when I have problems with my girlfriends, giving me surprises, always including me in their activities, and being honest with me when they knew I could take it.

#20

Carolyn exhibits knowledge of the other person, practical knowledge, conflict resolution, patience, humility, and hope. She has hope that she can make Dave's life better. She has humility in the case that she doesn't flaunt that she is helping an AIDS patient; she isn't acting like she's better than everyone else. She has patience with Dave when he doesn't seem like he is at first getting better. She exhibits conflict resolution by trying to help Dave get better and respect that he is still human, even though he has AIDS. She exhibits practical knowledge by using common sense when she cooked him food that she knew he wouldn't get sick and throw up from. She exhibits knowledge of the other person by trying to understand what he is really going through and all the pain that he is feeling.

I would like to exhibit honesty, trust, and patience. I would like to be honest because I believe that it is the most important value of life, and I know that I lie more than I should. I would like to trust other people because trust is also important; it allows you to have relations with other people. I want to learn how to exhibit patience because I am very anxious and I need to learn how to calm down and wait for life to take its course.

#19

1. No it is not just a feeling that comes to us or something that happens. We must decide to love; we must choose it as the focus of our life. It is the essential choice in a Christian's life.

2. Jesus says that the greatest commandments are "loving the Lord your God with all your heart, and will all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength. the second is loving your neighbor as yourself."

3. Love means to seek and then foster the good of others in the context of their concrete situations.

4. To seek and foster means to be active in love because love demands activity. It involves finding out what your partner needs and then doing something to fulfill it. The good of others is the same good we would want for ourselves. An example is after receiving a compliment, giving one to someone else. "If you receive than you shall give." In the concrete situation is respectiving a person as he or she is- not as we might wish them to be. Love must take the uniqueness of the other into account. This may require that we take painful or difficult steps for the good of another person.

5. I agree with this definition of love because it covers all aspects of love. It covers love for friendships, animals, and especially your loving partner. This love definition makes perfect sense.

#18

1. The three "Originals" are "Original Innocence, Unity, and Nakedness." "Original Innocence," which is the man, "Hadam", being alone after God created him. He has no gender, and he seeks his identity and inner life. This is the ability to have relationships, and "it" is created in God's image. This is the freedom to give and receive God's gifts of love, but "it" has nobody to share them with. "Original Solitude" is when the "hadam" leaves his mom and pop, which is its decision for freedom. It clings, which shows a commitment-based relationship. Him and her become one body, which illustrates mutual self-gifts. "Original Nakedness" is the when the first people of the Earth felt no shame in being naked. They weren't embarrassed and felt that it was normal to be naked. This leads me to believe that they were comfortable with each other, and valued all life as the same.

2. The Song of Songs is a collection of wedding feast songs written for a husband and wife to sing to each other. Its attitude toward sexuality is that the married couple should engage in sex in order to feel truly loved by one another.

3. St. Paul says that the body is to be used for love, not for selfish enjoyment that implies no commitment to the other person, which means to do it for reproductive purposes when you are in love, not for pleasure.

4. I agree with the last section that says, "an energy that produces a cosmic...". The other parts I don't agree with because it says sexuality is how we connect to all things, and in the way we parent and work because I don't feel that sexuality connects us to animals or plants, and that we don't have sexuality while we parents or work. I would take out the first two sections and leave the definition as only the last part.

#17

Sexuality is the feeling that you want to show your emotions to someone that you care about in an extreme way. Humans are sexual because they have the mindset that to in order to show someone that they love, they need to express it in a physical manner. This manner is sexually, and can be done many ways. The right time is when you feel that you are truly in love with someone that you know, for sure, feels the same way about you. This time comes after much time spent with that person, and should be expressed when you are alone with the person in a place that also shows how much you care about them: not the back of a car. The only thing that should be avoided is sexual actions that are done without any feelings that the two people for each other; they should care about one another. The best advice I've been given about sexuality was actually from my best friend's girlfriend, and she said, "No matter what you do in life, make sure that your first time is special; make sure you are truly in love with the person you are doing it with, and make it remember-able."

#16

I have suffered many times throughout my life, but there is one time that sticks out in my mind. Almost one year ago, on October 4, 2006 my friend, Mike, killed himself. This devastated his family and all of his friends. There were at least 1,000 people that showed up to his wake, and that's not exaggeration. His death led me to compassionate action because it made me realize that I should love everyone I meet and always say "I love you" to the people around me because one day, I might not be here. I value frienship more after he died because I have realized that everyone is important to someone else, and everything someone does for you they do because they care.

#15

Malcolm Smith II, Edwin Rangel, Michael Boemo, John LaPaglia

Jesus helps us understand and deal with our own suffering by guiding us through the difficult times by always being by our sides, and understanding our suffering by remembering the time when he suffered. Jesus doesn’t have an explanation for suffering, but he never lets us suffer on our own; he stays with us no matter what.

Dear Steve,
I’m terribly sorry about the pain that you are suffering through, and I hope that it will end soon. I will be here for you through these hard times so that I can help you understand it. You have to understand that bad things are bound to happen no matter what, but instead of grieving, try to find better ways to get through this. You can do this by writing your own music lyrics, playing an instrument, or getting involved in activities to take your mind off of suffering.
The first step to grieving and healing is acknowledging the loss. The second step is expressing your feelings, and the last step is taking action in order to move on. If you don’t express your feelings, you are actually cutting yourself off from your friendships. It is better to let your feelings out than hold them inside, and once you let them out, you feel better inside; more relieved.
Even though you are suffering and grieving, you need to try to see the good that life gives us. Take a couple minutes and look around and notice all the beautiful gifts that God gives us for our everyday life. Notice how your family members do everything that they can for you, and how your friends are always there by your side to help you through difficult times.
Through suffering, we all get an outcome of good. It is through this process that we can heal. Since we experience suffering, we learn to deal with it and use it for a good cause. It takes time, but eventually, it will happen, and you need to understand that.

#14

There is no definite meaning for suffering, in my opinion. God never gives us a complete answer. We do know that God has suffered with us (Jesus dying on the cross for us). Jesus overcame suffering, evil, and death by resurrecting and showing that evil does not have the final word. For Christians, the meaning of suffering is to relate to God in the only true way possible. I don't understand suffering or why it happens, but I do feel that we suffer so that we can have a real connection with God and Jesus and felt the way that He felt when he died on the cross for us.

#13

In class we said that the reason for all human suffering is ultimately a mystery. Are you satisfied with an answer like this? Please explain.

The two sources of suffering are natural and moral. Examples of natural is a hurricane, earthquake, tornado, fire, floods, death from old age, etc. Examples of moral choices are rape, suicide, homicide, child abuse, pollution, etc. A mix of both types of suffering is stealing out of a house that was recently hit by a hurricane.

Two main ways that people attempt to explain suffering is that they thought they did something to deserve it, or that they were being tested or taught a lesson by God, or that it was happening for a greater good. The explanation of deserving it doesn't work in the case of innocent suffering, such as a child dying, or someone that never smokes getting lung cancer from second-hand smoke. God testing you or teaching you a lesson doesn't work because it portrays God as cold, mean, and sadistic, and is not comforting to the sufferer.

I agree that the explanation for suffering is a mystery because nobody truly understands why anyone in the world suffers. Some people might think they do, such as using the explanations that they are being tested or that they deserved it, but there are always counter-examples to cut that explanation short. Since the explanation for suffering is in the "Private Self" block of God's Johari Window, I don't think we will ever understand why there is suffering.

#12

Necessary
1. The first necessary loss was when I left preschool to start kindergarten and true schooling.
2. The second necessary loss was when I grew out of childhood and into a mature adult.
3. The third necessary loss was when my brother left home to live on his own.

Senseless
1. A senseless loss of mine was when I left my homework at home and wasn't able to receive points for it.
2. Another senseless loss was when my teddy bear ripped when I was younger and I couldn't sleep with it anymore.
3. Also, a senseless loss was when my dad took my favorite toy away because I was arguing.

Accidental
1. An accidental loss was when I accidently lost my deck of cards because I thought I put it somewhere, but in turn, left it somewhere else.
2. Another loss was when I accidently backed over a ball and it popped.
3. Another loss was when my friend lost my CD because it accidently flew out of the window.

#11

Tragedies always happen, but nobody ever understands why it happens to good people. If I was one of the President's advisors, I would tell him that God has bad things happen to good people because people have free will and choose what they do with their lives. If they make bad decisions to harm people, bad things will happen. Also, bad things happen because we don't know good times without going through the bad. How do you know if you are sad if you have never felt happiness?

#10

Saying that humans are made in God's image means that we are able to receive all of God's gifts with open hands. It also means to share or relfect God's gifts with the world. When we sin, it means we refuse God's gifts, but we are the only part of the universe that can consciously say "No" to the offer of God's good gifts.

The top three gifts that I have received from God is my knowledge, my brother, and my parents. My knowledge is important to me because it is what is going to get me places in life; it'll get me where I want to go. My brother is important to me because he means the most to me out of anyone in the world, and he is always there for me. My parents are important because they give me everything I need to make it in this life and they will do anything to make me the best person I can be.

#9

God is like an over-flowing fountain signifies many different ideas. When I hear it, I think of the water as his love and the actual fountain as us, his sons/daughters. The water flowing over the cement base of the fountain symbolizes God's love flowing onto us.

God is the life- and light-giving sun also has many interpretations. I think that this means that the sun is shining down on us, just as God and his elements shine down upon us. I think that the light from the sun symbolizes God's love, and whatever the light shines upon is what is receiving His love. We, the humans, could be receiving this love, along with the plants, animals, land, etc.

God is the earth (ground). Everything grows off of it and it is what holds up the world. We depend on the ground to grow food and to walk on.

#8

1) Personal power is the ability to influence our own life and the people and events around us.
Nurturing power is power used to foster another person's well-being. Shared power is when our personal power is used to complement or increase other people's power.

2) I used my power to nurture others when I:
-Stayed home on a Friday night to help my mom when she was sick
-Helped my brother move in when his back hurt
-Helped my friend through a rough time at home
-Went to my friends house when she was sick to make her food
-Helped my friend with her homework when she didn't understand it

I shared my powers with others when:
-I discuss homework problems with others
-I share my knowledge about sports with other people
-I lead my team in sports to help them be all that they can be
-I taught my brother how to play a new card game
-I showed my mom how to use the computer and all of its functions

I would evaluate the sense of my own power by saying that it is quite exquisite. I believe that it is extensive and ranges to all sorts of topics and ideas.

#7

"How did Leslie Lemke's Johari window change over the course of his life? In what ways are you like Leslie and in what ways are you unlike him? Explain."

His Johari window changed at some parts greatly over his lifel, and other parts not so much. His public self was very small when he was younger because there wasn't much that he and other people knew about himself. As he grew older his public self got bigger because everyone was finding out stuff about him that he knew, too. His blind area was also small when he was younger, because although he didn't know anything about himself, his parents didn't know much about him either because he couldn't speak or show feelings. When he was older, it grew a little because there were things that his parents knew about him that he didn't, like how amazing he truly was.

His private self was very small both when he was younger and older because he could never really function or think normally. He never had any secrets that he never told anyone because his life progressively got better as he grew older. His unknown area was the biggest of the boxes when he was younger and older. This was because his talents were hidden to the world when he was younger, and when he was older he still had other talents unknown.

I honestly don't feel that I am like Leslie at all, other than that I have unknown talents just like he did. I am different from him because I was born with everything functioning normally and perfectly. Also, I can't play the piano or sing for my life, so he has me beat in that.

#6

1) Independence is relying only yourself to accomplish your goals. Dependence is relying on others only. Interdependence is a healthy balance of dependence and interdependence. Autonomy is the ability to shape our own life and actions by living interdependently with others.

2) I do agree with my Interdependent Scale rating of 14 because I am both independent and dependent when I try to accomplish my goals, and there is a healthy balance of the two. I am very interdependent and base my ideas on what other people say and how I feel.

I can grow interdependently by accomplishing goals of:
-working on a project individually and in a group
-building something on my own and with my father
-practicing sports with my brother and on my own
-reflect on my thoughts and have group discussions
-do homework on my own and then go over it with the teacher

#5

1) A sense of identity of who we are. This refers to our personality traits, abilities, strengths, weaknesses, interests, and values.


2) a. I am smart. I am athletic. I am Italian. I am a fast runner. I play soccer and baseball. I am 17 years old. I live in Westchester. I am the driver of a Honda Civic. I am very sarcastic. I am shorter than most people. I am understanding. I am caring. I am a "ladies man". I am the #2 ranked student in the class. I am John LaPaglia.

b. The hardest feeling for me to share with others is when I feel sad. I feel this is the hardest for me to share because I don't want to make people feel that I can't handle myself. Also, because I don't want people to act like they care how I feel, because I know people say things that they don't mean.

c. "Over the past year I have learned _______________ about myself because someone told it to me."

-that other people enjoy being in my presence
-that I have good leadership qualities
-that I can do anything that I truly want to
-that I have a good heart and mine
-that my brain can lead me anywhere I want to go

d. "I want to learn ____________ over the next year."

-how good of a soccer player I am
-how good of an all-around baseball player I can be
-how smart I can be
-hidden talents of mine
-how to speak Italian
-how to throw left-handed
-how to put a computer together from scratch
-about cars
-how to be able to have a 35" vertical leap
-how to be the best person I can possibly be

#4

1. A transition is a time of change, a crossing or passage... going from one thing to the next. An example of a transition that happened in my life would be going from junior high to high school, because the way that everything runs is different. Moving would also be a transition that would occur in some peoples' lives. An important transition I made in my life would be when my brother moved out of the house (temporarily into his dorm, and then permanently into his apartment). It was a difficult time because I always spent most of my time with him, and sharing a bedroom with him didn't make it any easier. I don't think I'm better off since he moved out, because I don't have anyone that I can talk to about stuff that I wouldn't feel comfortable talking to my parents about. I don't really have any opportunities since he moved out, I just have my own room, which gets kind of lonely at times, even though I have more space for myself.

2. From the story about the explorer in the Amazon I learned that to live fully you need to work and accomplish things by yourself. Having other people do things for you doesn't make you a better person, and you become lazy and don't learn to live on your own. No body can live your life for you, and to realize that you have to LIVE your life to the fullest extent.

3. Jesus's definition and my definition of living fully vary greatly. Jesus believed that to live fully you have to love and be loved. My definition is to live fully you have to truly enjoy live for what it's worth and live it to the fullest extreme. My definition is more about have fun and being happy, and Jesus's involves love and caring, and being cared for by other people.

4. Out of the eleven developmental tasks, I found that they were all essential to living a good life. I think that I am most eager to work on the task of choosing the right career and finding the perfect job because these choices affect the rest of your life, and your family's. I hope to one day become a civil engineer and provide for my family everything they need and want. I am most afraid to work on having a loving commitment, but only with finding the right wife. I am afraid because I wouldn't be sure if she was the right girl for me and could raise our kids with the utmost respect. I believe that choosing the right girl is very important and at times very scary, but I think that I will be prepared to take on the challenge.

#3

Suffering


Twisted- Keith Sweat

#2

At my funeral, I think that I would want my friends to say that I was a hard working student that cared about other peoples' feelings and really respected everyone for who they were. I would hope that they would say that I was a great athlete, but even more importantly, a great friend. I think that they would discuss their thoughts and views of me (hopefully all good) and would say that they missed me. I would hope that none of them regretted anything that happened with me in the past, and would realize that God does everything for a purpose, and that everything that I did was to better the world.

#1

One goal in my life that I wish to achieve is to graduate, with honors, from Notre Dame. It's one of the only schools that I truly wish to attend, and just getting accepted there would make me happy. I believe that I can accomplish this goal with hard work and perseverance, and hopefully one day I can accomplish it.