#33

1) "Which part of the handout stands out to you the most and why?"2) "How could you use your 'Must Have' and 'Can't Stand' to help you know if you are infatuated or 'in love'?"

1. The part that stands out the most is in the middle where it says infatuation is being together forever and not risking losing them, and love is being patient, not panicking, and planning your future with confidence. This stands out the most because that is one of the key concepts of love, being patient and not panicking. Love takes time and has to develop itself. Infatuation just happens in a second because it is so sufericial and fake. Love is time-consuming and needs to grow over years.

2. Your must have and can't stand list can help you know if you are infatuated or in love because it will make you realize if your list is really what you want in a girl/guy, or if you are just looking for something to do. Your list shows what you truly want in a girl, and if you are infatuated, your list won't truly matter to you. If you follow your list and base your love life off of that, then you are probably in love and not infatuated.

#32

Must-Haves
1. Chemistry
2. Attraction
3. Affectionate
4. Passionate
5. Emotionally Healthy
6. Loyal
7. Educated
8. Relaxed
9. Ambitious
10. Family Life

Can't Stands
1. Sloppy
2. Poor Hygiene
3. Depressed
4. Drugs
5. Flirts
6. Self-Centered
7. Cheating
8. Judgmental
9. Denying
10. Childish

#31

1.) Dating today is going out to dinner and a movie, and really getting to know the other person. You are exclusively dating someone when one asks the other person to be their girl/boyfriend. Dating is either just called "dating" or "going out."

2.) A disadvantage to the Olden Days is that the woman would control who could call her, and the advantage is that it is a more organized way to find a partner. A disadvantage to the Classical Era is that marriage is not the main goal, and an advantage is that they were unsupervised.

3.)
1. Sexual attraction
2. Fun
3. Getting out of ourselves
4. Companionship
5. Joy of give-and-take
6. Thing to do
7. Ego boost
8. Marriage partner

I ranked them this way because to me, dating is about finding a person that you are sexual attracted to, but can also have fun with. Also, dating should be about finding out about other people and having someone there for you. Dating is also something to do so that you don't have to sit at home all the time by yourself. Dating isn't an ego boost or a way to find a marriage partner because those aren't important to me at this time in my life.

4.) The easiest guideline to follow is to have an equal relationship because it isn't hard to ask your partner what they would like to do or where they would like to go. The hardest guideline to follow is to see beyond gender stereotypes because I am a very sarcastic and comical person, and it is hard not to make my partner realize that I am just joking around.

#30

1. Good listening skills are important because it is critical to success and is essential to caring and loving.

2. You know you are doing a good job of listening when the other person keeps talking and tells you about what is important for him or her. You are listening well if you have good body and spoken language.

3. The nine guidelines are quiet your own speech and be attentive, communicate an open attitude with your body language, stay in eye contact, avoid assuming anything about what the other person will say, give signals that you are listening, help by summarizing occasionally, ask clarifying questions, check your perceptions of the speaker's body language, and let the person know if you cannot listen at the time.

4. The easiest guideline for me to follow is to act clarifying questions because I'm not shy. If I don't understand what they are saying, I will ask them. I know that they won't feel discouraged if I have to ask them what they were talking about.

5. The hardest for me to follow is to stay in eye contact because at times it feels weird to just keep looking at someone. It's hard to keep eye contact with someone, especially when they are talking to you and they aren't keeping your eye contact.

#29

1. Body language is the way we communicate with others non-verbally. This can be scene through bodily gestures, facial expressions, posture, tone and pitch of voice, rate of speech, clothing, and the use of physical space. Body language is more readily believed because body language is natural and responsive. We usually don't plan what we are going to do with our bodies like we do when we plan on lying, so it is thought the body is easier to be believed than verbal communication. Nonverbal behavior is less conscious, less subject to control. It is the "real" message.

2. Humans feel the need to touch and be affectionate, but as we grow older we might feel scared to touch our family members and feel that affection. Touching is needed when affection is desired and wanted, and the other person is aware of it. We need touching when we want to care for ourselves and other people. Touching is loving and caring. The guideline is touch to give, not to get. This means touch to let other people know you are there for them, not so that they give something to you in return for being there for them.

3. After observing my classmate on Tuesday, I could tell when he was interested and bored. When he was interested, he sat up and was paying attention to the teacher, while asking questions when he didn't understand. When he was bored, he was slouching with his hand on his head. On Wednesday when he was interested, he focused on the teacher or the speaker and did a lot of nodding. When he wasn't listening, he put his headphones in and was paying attention to his computer. Thursday was much of the same stuff. He did a lot of the same motions, except when he gave a presentation he was very fidgety and was looking all around the room, which showed he was nervous.

#28

1. Carl Jung says to become whole, a person must bring the idea that all males have a feminine dimension, and all females have a male dimension, to awareness and allow it to be integrated into his or her personality.

2. Jesus transcended sexual stereotypes by crying when life demanded sorrow, and being forceful when life demanded courage. He expressed his sexuality by directing its energy and power into his ministry. He was free of these sexual stereotypes because he didn't care if people talked about him when he wept because he was in pain. He knew that it was ok to cry and let out his anger.

3. In some places, that is true. In others, it isn't. Many dads, especially those who were in the Army, try to make their sons the manliest a man could be. They make them play rough sports and always yell at them so that they don't grow up to be a wimp. In other households, the parents take care of their son and just try to make them the best human he could be, not necessarily the manliest.

4. She says that men say that women can't do anything for themselves and always need help doing things. She also says that they say that women don't have the same rights as men, or any rights, and that Christianity came from a man and a woman.

5. The second stanza describes me the most. It does because it shows a shared life of parenthood, and I believe that a family should all be equal and have an equal say. A wife and husband should have the liberty to say what they want, but still listen to what their spouse says and wants to do. Freedom is important, but equality is more important.

#27

As a girl, I wake up at 6:30, so that I could shower and put on 4 pounds of make-up so that all the guys will look at me. I will only eat a little bit of breakfast so that I don't gain any weight, and then I will drive to school, and meet all nine of my best friends at my locker. After this, we will walk around the hallways and talk extremely loud while walking even slower. I will only talk to my friends and the boys I am trying to impress, while ignoring everyone else. At lunch, my best friends and I will eat an apple and one carrot because we cannot eat in front of guys. After school our click will go get our nails done to impress all the boys tomorrow at school.

After getting our nails done, I will go home and listen to Brittney Spears and Avril Lavigne for hours on end, and then only do the homework for the hot teachers. I will probably end up fighting with my little brother, Joey, because guys are stupid and I know I'm always right (I AM a girl). I will then put on a cucumber mask and get enough beauty sleep, only to be awoken again, extremely angry that I forgot to paint my toenails last night.

#26

1) When you completed your Johari window on-line, did you include the same 5-6 qualities that you had written on your paper?
--Yes, I did include the same qualities. I did thise because I was confident that they all explained me perfectly, and I based what I wrote off of the Johari Window site. I used those words to reflect on the type of person that I am.

2) Would you feel comfortable if I projected your Johari window on the screen?
--Yes, I would feel comfortable because I know that everyone has an idea of who I am and what I represent and knows that the qualities that I picked for myself and others picked for me are correct. I know that they will understand why I chose what I chose, and why my peers chose what they chose to describe me.

3) We have seen four communication encounters so far: "You" messages, "I" messages, "Find Someone Who...", and the interactive Johari window. Compare and contrast these four communication encounters:a) Which encounter is the easiest to take part in? Why?b) Which encounter is the most difficult to take part in? Why?c) Which encounter takes the most amount of risk? Why?d) Include additional similarities or differences between the four encounters.
--a.) The easiest one to take part in is the "Find Someone Who..." because it is the most fun. It's very easy to go around and ask you classmates easy questions that can't upset or anger anyone. It has the least risk of annoying anyone or making them feel uncomfortable, so it's the easiest.
b.) The most difficult would be the "I" messages because you have to admit that you were wrong about something. Also, it takes a lot of courage and preparation to apologize to someone, and many people can't do it because it is so nerve-wrecking.
c.) The communication that takes the most amount of risk would be the "You" messages because you are calling out the other person with their faults. You are taking their bad habits or traits and telling them that they haven't impacted your life in a positive way. It is risky because "You" messages could possibly end a relationship that you never truly wanted to end.
d.) The similarities of the four encounters are that they all involve communicating with other people, they all involve having enough courage to encounter someone else, and they all involve ways of expressing yourself emotionally or mentally. Some of the differences include how you communicate with someone (over the computer or in person), the type of courage that it takes to talk to the other person or people (courage to tell someone off or thank/apologize), and how you express yourself (in a physical, nice, calm, angry, etc. way).